The lyric on this candle came from a place I know well. A place of learning to soften. A place of sitting with the part of me that learned to shrink, to quiet down, to apologize for taking up space.
Before this line, I went through a period of burying false selves. False identities. Survival masks. The versions of me that kept me safe but also kept me small. The Hesitator. The Escapist. The Smotherer. The Mimic. Twenty-two of them. Each one a way of surviving, and each one a cage.
When I started the mirror work, I started seeing them more clearly. I started naming them. I started letting them go. And after I did that, I was able to write songs like this one. Songs that weren't about burying ghosts, but about learning to hold the parts that remained.
"You were never too much. You were just a kid."
I wrote that line for Sarah. For the part of me that learned to disappear. For the little one inside who was told she cried too much, felt too much, was too much. The line is a reminder that she wasn't the problem. She was just a kid doing her best. And she deserved softness, not shame.
Louise Hay taught that we've been bullying ourselves for years, and that maybe we could try being kind instead. But I couldn't get there right away. I had to feel my anger first. I had to learn to look without flinching. I had to bury the false selves before I could speak to the real one.
This candle is a gentle nudge that you were never too much. You were just a kid. But honestly, you dont need my candle to know that. I mostly just want to put the thought out there.
Thank you for looking.
🐦⬛
Product Details:
Warm glow and smooth burn make it an easy pick for unwinding after a long day, gifting a friend, or adding a finishing touch to a cozy space.
• 100% natural soy wax blend • 100% cotton wick • Amber glass jar
The lyric on this candle came from a place I know well. A place of learning to soften. A place of sitting with the part of me that learned to shrink, to quiet down, to apologize for taking up space.
Before this line, I went through a period of burying false selves. False identities. Survival masks. The versions of me that kept me safe but also kept me small. The Hesitator. The Escapist. The Smotherer. The Mimic. Twenty-two of them. Each one a way of surviving, and each one a cage.
When I started the mirror work, I started seeing them more clearly. I started naming them. I started letting them go. And after I did that, I was able to write songs like this one. Songs that weren't about burying ghosts, but about learning to hold the parts that remained.
"You were never too much. You were just a kid."
I wrote that line for Sarah. For the part of me that learned to disappear. For the little one inside who was told she cried too much, felt too much, was too much. The line is a reminder that she wasn't the problem. She was just a kid doing her best. And she deserved softness, not shame.
Louise Hay taught that we've been bullying ourselves for years, and that maybe we could try being kind instead. But I couldn't get there right away. I had to feel my anger first. I had to learn to look without flinching. I had to bury the false selves before I could speak to the real one.
This candle is a gentle nudge that you were never too much. You were just a kid. But honestly, you dont need my candle to know that. I mostly just want to put the thought out there.
Thank you for looking.
🐦⬛
Product Details:
Warm glow and smooth burn make it an easy pick for unwinding after a long day, gifting a friend, or adding a finishing touch to a cozy space.
• 100% natural soy wax blend • 100% cotton wick • Amber glass jar
