CROW SIGNAL: THE TANTRUM IS THE TORCH

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THE TANTRUM IS THE TORCH: Why Your Anger Deserves to Breathe

By Loui Crow

Don’t clip your wings just to make someone else comfortable.
A wing won’t lift for a heart that hides the wind.

Are you done yet?
Done shrinking so they feel tall?
Done being “the calm one” just to keep the peace?

Because depression is quiet.
But anger?
Anger wakes the house.

And some folks—especially the ones who liked you soft and sorry—
they’ll flinch when the fire starts talking back.

But here’s the truth:

Anger is the ladder.
It rises from the wreckage of silence.
It’s purer than guilt.
And braver than pretending you’re okay.

So get angry.
Punch a pillow.
Scream in the car.
Cry in the kitchen.
Finish the tantrum you never got to have.

Because beneath the rage is overwhelm.
And under that? A spark of hope.
And if you keep climbing—you get to clarity.
You get to choice.
You get to you.

✨ Why Does This Work?

Because anger, when unexpressed, doesn’t dissolve—it compresses.
It doesn’t disappear—it reroutes. Into your neck. Into your gut. Into your sleep. Into your throat that always seems sore, even though you’re not sick.

“We often get angry at others for not being the way we want them to be. But most of the time, we are really angry at ourselves for not setting clear boundaries.”
— Louise Hay

Louise taught that unspoken feelings—especially anger, resentment, and guilt—are energetically stored in the body.

• Neck pain? “Refusing to see other sides of a situation.”

• Throat tightness? “Holding in angry words.”

• Stomach issues? “Fear of the new. Inability to digest emotions.”

And it’s not just energetic. It’s somatic.

💥 The Science of Sacred Rage

Somatic therapy teaches us that emotions don’t just live in our heads—they live in our bodies.
Anger is mobilizing energy. It exists to move us into action.

But when we repress it? Freeze it? Turn it inward?

That energy can become:

• Muscle tension

• Chronic pain

• Migraines

• Anxiety attacks

• Immune dysfunction

• Depression masked as numbness

According to Dr. Peter Levine (founder of Somatic Experiencing), trauma and stuck emotions remain in the body until they are safely expressed. That means movement. That means sound. That means a ritual of release.

And yes—punching a pillow is valid.

So is screaming in your car.
So is shaking your arms.
So is stomping your feet.
So is dancing to that one song only your inner teen understands.

These aren’t tantrums.
These are nervous system rituals.
They help your body complete what it never got to finish the moment you froze or shut down.

“You can’t get to clarity from despair. But you can get there from anger.”
— Abraham Hicks

According to the Emotional Guidance Scale, Abraham places anger above depression, fear, and guilt—because anger is momentum. And momentum means movement.

💬 How This Looks in Real Life

You might notice your neck pain eases the day after a rage ritual.
You might feel lighter, like you do after a workout.
You might finally laugh. Or finally sleep.

Personally? I get an energy boost after letting myself shadow-box the air for 90 seconds.
My breath deepens. My clarity sharpens. I feel here. And sometimes? That’s enough.

And sometimes, it opens the door to everything else.

🕊️ From the Mouths of Little Teachers

Isn’t it beautiful how children move through emotions?

My son—my gorgeous, heart-wide toddler—will yell, sob, kick, and then…
ten seconds later? He’s laughing.
Joyful. Present. Done.

He’s not holding on, because he never learned he had to.

Watching him has changed me.
He taught me that emotions aren’t problems.
They’re weather. They pass.
But only if you let them blow through.

He’s my greatest teacher. And I’m still learning.

✍️ Try This

• Write the letter. Don’t send it. Burn it.

• Slam the pillow. Don’t aim it. Just let it out.

• Cry ugly in the kitchen. That’s the temple now.

• Dance out your “no.”

• Scream into your steering wheel. Let it hold the sound.

• Journal afterward—if you’re brave.

• And drink water like it’s made of light.

💌 The Final Word

This is not about yelling at your partner.
This is not about lashing out or losing control.

This is about giving your truth a safe exit.
So it doesn’t turn on you.

Because holding that fire in doesn’t make you strong.
It makes you sick.

Let it move. Let it burn. Let it bless.

The tantrum is the torch.
The fire is not a flaw.
The scream is sacred.

And baby crow?

You don’t owe your silence to anyone.